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Re: the big c finally caught up with me

Post by bpaquet on Sat Oct 27, 2012 8:14 pm

Amen to that, Jeane! Take care of you. The rest will sort itself out.
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Post by jeanebellini on Sun Oct 28, 2012 10:18 pm

please don't mention where i work..i never EVER write out where i work because they have poeple that they pay just to go through the net to see if anyone that works for them is talking about them.
a person can get fired just for mentioning the name.
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Post by Bob on Mon Oct 29, 2012 10:27 am

Good grief Jeane, I'm out of the loop for a while and all hell breaks loose.
I know it's not the easiest thing to do at times like this but try to keep positive. Think positive at all times.
My thoughts and those of the Labrador girls are with you.
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Re: the big c finally caught up with me

Post by fiffur on Tue Oct 30, 2012 12:09 pm

sorry.....but I meant it. If they don't value you, somebody else certainly will.

How are you weathering the storm?
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Post by jeanebellini on Wed Nov 14, 2012 12:17 am

got a letter from the hospital saying FINAL NOTICE and that if i didn't pay the nearly $1000 for that one biill in full immediately they would send it to a collection office(or whatever its called).I've GOT to get the rest of my papers together (can't find my w2 from this past year and have been waiting for Fri for the newest paystub) and get someone somehow to take me to the hospital to try to understand all these bills (got SIX bills today...including the credit card that has the MRI on it that i never even got).
its so hard not to have a phone or a phone to use easily (I've been using the phone at work and i know that's gonna get me introuble soon...they;re already starting their 'change you face, your voice and you attitude or we're gonna fire you ' threats. and telling me if i'm so sick and distraught i should take a leave of abscense. (If i took oneof those all i'd be doing it sitting down her ein the raydon (radon?) filled basement not having any human contact for days on end.).
all i want is a reiable phone (my cell won't even take a call anywhere near here any more..i have to talk 2 1/2 miles to even get a connection!). and someone i don't to beg and pay and rip my guts out to get a ride with.
its really making me sick..and today i had an MRI that ewnt through AND a CT...i didn't drink a lot of water like they told me to do when i got home and i haven't got all the radiation or whatever it is they had in the IVs out of me. between that and the sickness of that pile of bills all in one day i feel like i'm going to implode.
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Re: the big c finally caught up with me

Post by fiffur on Wed Nov 14, 2012 2:17 pm

How does your job expect you to have money to pay rent/utilities/bills if you're on a "leave of absence"? I think their attitude needs some adjusting, not yours. If you can't call the hospital you can send them an email or a letter telling them of your financial/medical coverage situation and offer to make payments. They can't refuse to take payments and that will keep the bill out of collections.
I'd also contest the MRI interest charges on the credit card bill....... I know those are expensive, and you shouldn't have to pay interest on something you didn't get done until yesterday.

We've got your back here Jeane. We're all praying for you and sending tons of (((((((((((((((HEALING VIBES))))))))))))))))) your way. We care and you DO matter to us!
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Post by lovekitties on Wed Nov 14, 2012 7:26 pm

hang in there, Jeane {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} Hug
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Re: the big c finally caught up with me

Post by gbste on Wed Nov 14, 2012 9:34 pm

The folks here are right Jeane. You should be able to work out the finances. Your job is to get better. Do what Fiffur says, and focus on getting well again.
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Post by jeanebellini on Thu Nov 15, 2012 10:24 pm

was supposed to go to the cancer doctor tomorrow to find out just how far the cancer has gone and if i can get the operation sooner or later or what. BUT when they called to verify the appoiontment they said it was 4:00 (maybe 3:00 i'm so upset and distraught to think straight). the people upstairs swear they were told 10:;0am...the doctor called when i was here but they took the call and hungup before i could get up there (i ran up the stairs cuz i saw the cal come in on the tv). they told the doctor i HAD to have a morning apppouitnent. (Yeah,they'er TELLING a cancer specialist what to do and they're not his patient or the patient's advocate.i can't find anyhone to be my advocate and when i said something to them upstairs about it they dind't even know what i was talking about).

so...after going about three weeks without an appointment due to the electric, gas and whatever i STILL have to wait. i'm starting to have pains and the mass on my stomach is getting larger and harder. i don't know whatis going on..but i have NO idea when i'll be able to get to the specialist now. next week if thanksgiving hell at work..and between then and new years eve is pure and utter hell on a daily basis.

i know i've said it ebfreo and i'm being totally serious cuz i've been thinking about this a lot..but i really want to just not do this any mopre..just say to hell wtih the doctors and tersts and the money i can't afford (cuz i cant even get to social services to try to get any help!!can't get anyone to drivge me the few miles ..and id onm't know where it is and i can't even afford a bus there and back righ tnow).i'm just sick and tired and stressed out beyond belief..i don[t think i can take it anymore.
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Re: the big c finally caught up with me

Post by fiffur on Fri Nov 16, 2012 1:36 pm

Will the hospital you were in refer you to a patient's advocate.....who can help you with all this? They can arrange rides to appointments, help with the doc's staff making those appointments, maybe even deal with your boss (I'm not sure if they can do this or not but worth looking into). Nobody should have to go through what you're going through alone. The folks upstairs are not helping much IMHO.

Please don't give up Jeane. Help is out there, just have to find it.
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Post by fiffur on Fri Nov 16, 2012 1:41 pm

Found a link to find an advocate........http://www.advoconnection.com/services.htm It says most BUT NOT ALL advocates charge a fee, so some are free. Worth a shot to look and end up with someone knowledgable and assertive there by your side to help with all this.
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Re: the big c finally caught up with me

Post by Sue Short on Sun Dec 02, 2012 11:23 pm



I had a phone call from Joe, you know Jeane's upstairs landlord. It came around 5.30 and just now
caught up with my voice mail. Jeane, has been admitted to hospital, Joe took her to the emergency room
this afternoon and the admitted her. I will try to call Jeane tomorrow afternoon and then I will try to contact
Joe. I may also try to contact St. Micheal's , I don't know about that one or not. I'd like some input on that
idea before I act on it.
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Re: the big c finally caught up with me

Post by fiffur on Mon Dec 03, 2012 1:58 pm

OhDearLord, please don't tell me between the job, the folks upstairs, the insurance company stalling tactics, the doc wanting to wait, etc. that they've procrastinated her into an early grave. **praying up a storm that they save her** And who is taking care of the rescue kitties?
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Re: the big c finally caught up with me

Post by lovekitties on Mon Dec 03, 2012 2:09 pm

please keep us informed, Sue. I don't have Joe's number.
Here's Hoping everything is Okay and jeane will have a good outcome

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Re: the big c finally caught up with me

Post by BobCat on Mon Dec 03, 2012 3:01 pm

Sending JB good healthy thoughts.
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Re: the big c finally caught up with me

Post by ARNIgal on Mon Dec 03, 2012 3:55 pm

Vibes from MI too... sunny Arrow
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Post by Fire Flower on Mon Dec 03, 2012 5:14 pm

I am sending good health thoughts to Jeane. Let us hope that she will fine.
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Re: the big c finally caught up with me

Post by Sue Short on Mon Dec 03, 2012 6:18 pm



I spoke with Andrea from upstairs, I don't want to go in to detail here. She and her
husband are extremely worried about Jeane. They worried for the same reasons that we
are. Not only her health but the fact she refuses to reach to help with all of this. I will
try to call Jeane later at hospital.
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Re: the big c finally caught up with me

Post by fiffur on Tue Dec 04, 2012 1:49 pm

There is no shame in asking for help if you really need it. What I don't understand is WHY she won't reach out for help when she needs it. If ever there were a situation that called for help this is it!

I am very worried about Jeane. My mom is worried too. I hope Jeane'll pull through and be okay. I don't want to lose my very first online friend....I thought that wouldn't happen for many more years yet.
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Post by Suzzzz on Tue Dec 04, 2012 9:39 pm

If you're willing, Sue, I think it might be good to call the hospital. Don't hospitals have social workers and psychologists on staff? Maybe you could ask that someone visit her. I think Jeane desperately needs professional psychological help to deal with whatever she's going through.
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Re: the big c finally caught up with me

Post by fluffnstuff on Tue Dec 04, 2012 10:07 pm

I don't know all the details of Jeane's situation, but I am restraining to think it's pride. I'm sure there are people out there that need help of any kind and refuse to get it due to pride. It could be anything as to why Jeane may not reach out to get the help she may need.
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Re: the big c finally caught up with me

Post by Sue Short on Tue Dec 04, 2012 10:58 pm



Suzzz, great minds think alike or is it evil minds. Anyway, I spoke with Jeane's friend Lorel for
a spell last night and then this morning. She gave me the name and number of a social worker
that has spoken with Jeane. I called the social worker today and spoke with her. Here is the short
version. Jeane, is of sound mind and unless she gives either Lorel or someone else power to make
medical decisions there is nothing we can do. There is someone on the list and according to the social worker the person is a co worker.

Fluff, Suzzz has nailed it succently. Unless Jeane admits that she needs help and reaches out there is
nothing we can do. The social worker will give her a list of agencies that can help her. At the end of the day
all we her friends can do is put it in God's hands and pray.
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Post by BobCat on Wed Dec 05, 2012 12:22 pm

Just like with alcohol and drug issues, no one can make someone do something they don't want to do. It's not a bad system, if you think about it, because they could stretch these interpretations so that you would have no control over your own destiny - and that would be a very bad thing Unfortunately, however, this also works against people when they are allowing harm to come to themselves by neglecting or abusing themselves.

All we can do is to tell JB that she has friends who care, and send her good thoughts.
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Post by fluffnstuff on Wed Dec 05, 2012 3:40 pm

Sue, I getting at the idea that I didn't want to accuse Jeane of being too proud to ask for financial help. It's one thing to admit that help is needed, but asking for it is something else.
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Re: the big c finally caught up with me

Post by Suzzzz on Wed Dec 05, 2012 9:30 pm

It's very hard to ask for help, especially when you're deeply depressed, which I think Jeane is, especially if you have complex life experiences that didn't exactly teach you to reach out. I wish the social worker had actually tried to counsel with her rather than just offer her treatment contacts.
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